What is a wave of energy?


Most often we think of waves as water crashing relentlessly into the shore in varying degrees of energy and force. Waves are also vibrations that carry energy from one place to another.

As HSP/Empaths we can feel like we’re relentlessly being struck over and over again by emotions- wave after wave of emotion crashing against us knocking us down. 

“Emotions are what make us human. Make us real. The word ’emotion’ stands for energy in motion. Be truthful about your emotions, and use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against yourself.” – Robert T. Kiyosaki


Emotions are energy currents that flow through us. Every wave of emotion, every flood of feeling, that we experience is designed to flow through us. Each emotion is a message from our soul communicating to our conscious self. 

All of our feelings as HSP/Emapths have varying degrees of intensity- from our warmest enthusiasm to our highest anxiety. But we can forget that each one- with its highs and lows- always begins and ends. When we become caught up in vibrations, energies that do not serve our emotional health, this is when we suffer most as Highly Sensitives. 

Brining our awareness to the present moment in times of overwhelm and struggle is a way of showing ourselves the much needed and much deserved self-compassion we deserve as HSP/Es. In a world where our emotions are so often misunderstood and criticized it’s critical to our wellbeing that we take the time we need to stop and focus on what we need in the moment. 

The waves will never stop crashing against us but our resilience and strength to hold up against them can grow through mindful self care. 


5 Fixes for Highly Sensitive Winter Blues

The air turns crisp, the apples are ripe, leaves crunch under your feet. There are many things to be enjoyed when summer fades, but those fall colors quickly fade, everything goes gray, and you can start to wonder if the sun has abandoned you for a permanent vacation in Miami. Lack of energy, trouble sleeping, or even sleeping too much, struggling to get things done, and just a general feeling of sadness can all be signs of the winter blues, also known as *SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder.

The farther away you live from the equator, the less sunlight you get during those long winter days. In the Pacific Northwest, where I live, there is an average of 152 days of sunshine. Compare that with Florida’s average of 237 and California’s average of 284 sunny days!

Even though we know what to expect each year, as Highly Sensitive People we often require more time to adjust to these seasonal changes. Even though we may look forward to these changes at first the darker, shorter days can quickly become a drain on our already strained nervous systems.

With a little planning, these five steps will set you up with a self-care routine that will help to alleviate winter blues symptoms and keep the happiness flowing until spring!

1. Happy Light
 Light therapy is one of my winter essentials! Light boxes imitate natural light and will also have positive effects on your mood and sleep overall. When we are deprived of daylight our bodies can fail to regulate the hormone melatonin, which regulates our sleep and serotonin, which helps with mood stability and happiness.
 TIP: In as little as 20–30 minutes a day a happy light will help to keep these all-important hormones in balance.

2. Vitamins
 Changes in diet and lack of natural sunlight can deplete our bodies of essential nutrients. Both D and B-Complex vitamins are an important part of emotional and mental health all year round. Lack of vitamin D may cause fatigue, depressed mood, and put you at higher risk for colds and flu. TIP: Good sources of Vitamin D include:
 -Fortified plant milk

B vitamins are depleted by many of the foods we all enjoy during the holidays, like alcohol, caffeine, and sugary treats. They are also water-soluble so they must be replenished on a regular basis.
 TIP: Good sources of B-Complex vitamins include:
 -Leafy Greens
 -Nutritional yeast

3. Exercise
 It’s cold out and it gets dark at about 4 o’clock, all the more reason to keep up a regular exercise routine! There are many more excuses to hibernate in the colder months but this is actually counterintuitive to your well-being.
 TIP: Go the gym, bundle up and take a walk outside, roll out your yoga mat, anything to keep your blood pumping and those endorphins flowing.

4. Healthy Eating
 Of course, healthy food is important all year round, but it’s even more vital in the colder months. Typically the variety of fresh fruits and veggies can be limited and the holidays often bring sugary foods we might otherwise avoid. These refined sugars are linked to inflammation, which in turn can disrupt sleep patterns, further exacerbating winter blues symptoms.
 TIP: Eat healthy at home before attending holiday gatherings, bring healthy snacks and meals to share at potlucks and work parties

5. Plants
 Bring the outside in! Plants are known to reduce stress, produce oxygen, reduce indoor pollutants, and brighten up your living space. Plants also go through the action of transpiration, a process where water moves through them and evaporates through the leaves and flowers. This means that they increase the humidity indoors when your space has closed windows and drying heat.
 TIP: Ferns and fragrant herbs like rosemary and lavender are easy to care for and economical. Use caution if you have pets! Keep all plants away from pets, some may be harmful and poisonous.

Please share any tips that help you get through the winter blues. I’d love to hear about them and try them out!

*SAD is a kind of depression that occurs in a seasonal pattern and comes and goes as the seasons change. It usually begins in the late fall and lasts until early spring.If these natural remedies do not relieve your symptoms seek the advice of mental health and/or medical professional. It is normal to have some melancholy days, but if they last for an extended period of time, talk to your doctor, especially if you experience feelings of hopelessness and thoughts of suicide.

We’re not in control of what others are here to learn

We’re all on our own path. ⁣⁣

As HSPs and Empaths we feel more deeply and are more intuitive with the feelings and actions of those around us. ⁣⁣This can leave us feeling frustrated, irritated, and hurt by the actions of those close to us, as we try to make sense of their choices.⁣⁣

Learning to cultivate a witness mind frees us from the attachments of judgement and critiques of another’s journey. ⁣⁣It’s rarely easy and is often a painful adjustment to our way of thinking. ⁣⁣But the reward of simply noticing and watching in mindful presence in support of someone we care for is one of the healthiest ways to cultivate mutual love and compassion.

⁣⁣This can be especially painful if you love someone who struggles with addiction. As some who lost a parent to prescription drug addiction I speak from experience. That’s a story for another day…

⁣⁣We cannot force anyone to walk the path we want them to- no matter how much we love them. ⁣⁣

“No one saves us but ourselves.

No one can and no one may.

We ourselves must walk the path.” ⁣⁣

– Buddha

Sending much love to all of my HSP & Empath friends today who love someone that is struggling with the pain of addiction. 

6 Affirmations for Living from the Authentic Self

How can we live more from our authentic self? Here are 6 affirmations that can help us to let go of false comparisons, and let in truth, trust, abundance, acceptance, gratitude, and worth.

  1. I trust myself and I am perfect just as I am.

If you begin to feel insecurity and self-doubt creeping into your practice, keep in mind that reliance and belief in yourself are foundational to a peaceful existence. Perfection is not about how the rest of the world sees us, it is about how we trust in ourselves.

  1. My life is abundant and full of joy.

Gratitude is the root of happiness. When we can learn to focus on the positive in our lives – a warm bed, food on the table, loving family and friends – fretting over how our poses might look next to others is insignificant. 

  1. I accept that I always do my best.

If we parallel our best to someone else’s we will never be fulfilled. It is only when we look at ourselves with kindness and compassion that can we leave the fear of rejection and failure behind. 

  1. I am grateful for my body and how it serves me.

If you woke up today, you are triumphant. When we think of those who may be struggling with health concerns and other life-changing challenges, and even if we are walking those paths ourselves, we can find ways to be thankful that the body we were given has granted us another day.  

  1. I recognize my wins today, no matter how great or small.

We often internalize the criticism of others whose perspective on our journey is skewed at best. Someone else’s commentary on our abilities and goals is immaterial to what we know to be our true selves. 

  1. I am worthy of love and compassion.

Remember that you are in control of your thoughts and have the ability to love yourself unconditionally. We live much of our lives inside our own heads, and these thoughts can be overwhelmingly negative. We must remain vigilant and mindful to cultivate unconditional self-love. 

It’s human nature to look outside of ourselves for confirmation for our worth, but authentic joy comes from within and the unique perspective we hold of our place in the world. The comparison holds no real value or fulfillment to who we truly are, and when we try to parallel our journey to another’s we are destined for unhappiness. The Bhagavad Gita states, “Yoga is the journey of the self. Through the self. To the self.” Everything we already need is within us. When we understand that we are truly practicing Yoga.